The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness

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How to free yourself, change your life, and achieve real happiness

Is happiness something you choose for yourself? The Courage to Be Disliked presents a simple and straightforward answer. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of nineteenth-century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, this book follows an illuminating dialogue between a philosopher and a young man. Over the course of five conversations, the philosopher helps his student to understand how each of us is able to determine the direction of our own life, free from the shackles of past traumas and the expectations of others.

Book Details


288 Pages






  • Deny trauma
  • Why people can change
  • Trauma does not exist
  • People fabricate anger
  • How to live without being controlled by the past
  • Socrates and Adler
  • Are you okay just as you are?
  • Unhappiness is something you choose for yourself
  • People always choose not to change
  • Your life is decided here and now


  • All problems are interpersonal relationship problems
  • Why you dislike yourself
  • All problems are interpersonal relationship problems
  • Feelings of inferiority are subjective assumptions
  • An inferiority complex is an excuse
  • Braggarts have feelings of inferiority
  • Life is not a competition
  • You’re the only one worrying about your appearance
  • From power struggle to revenge
  • Admitting fault is not defeat
  • Overcoming the tasks that face you in life
  • Red string and rigid chains
  • Don’t fall for the ‘life-lie’
  • From the psychology of possession to the psychology of practice


  • Discard other people’s tasks
  • Deny the desire for recognition
  • Do not live to satisfy the expectations of others
  • How to separate tasks
  • Discard other people’s tasks
  • How to rid yourself of interpersonal relationship problems
  • Cut the Gordian knot
  • Desire for recognition makes you unfree